#BoycottDolceGabbana

Their fashion may be cutting edge, but their opinions are from the dark ages.

Their fashion may be cutting edge, but their opinions are from the dark ages.

Last week, Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana gave an interview and made comments that prove gay people can be haters just like anybody else.

“We oppose gay adoptions. The only family is the traditional one.”

“No chemical offsprings and rented uterus: life has a natural flow, there are things that should not be changed.”

Dolce added that procreation “must be an act of love”, saying: “You are born to a mother and a father – or at least that’s how it should be.
“I call children of chemistry, synthetic children. Rented uterus, semen chosen from a catalog.”

Gabbana added: “The family is not a fad. In it there is a supernatural sense of belonging.”

After Elton John started a twitter campaign to #BoycottDolceGabbana over the weekend, now Dolce and Gabbana are trying to walk back there comments claiming that they were just speaking on their own experience and not judging others.

Gabbana said in a statement Sunday that “it was never our intention to judge other people’s choices. We do believe in freedom and love.”

Dolce says he was expressing his view about family based on his experience growing up in a traditional Sicilian family “made up of a mother, a father and children. I am very well aware of the fact that there are other types of families and they are as legitimate as the one I’ve known.”

Dolce said he was expressing his personal views “without judging other people’s choices.”

Guys, don’t bother.  There is no way your global statements last week against gay adoptions, “synthetic” IVF and non-traditional families can be interpreted as non-judgmental.  You called Elton John unintelligent today and you must think there are lots of other stupid people that will accept your feeble explanations.  And no apology will ever reverse the damage that has been done with your offensive statements.  You have lost customers for life.  Just like I have walked past Barilla pasta on sale dozens of times and then paid more for other brands, I will never buy another item from your brand ever again.  Now that you have exercised your right to speak your mind, I will be exercising my rights as a consumer and choose to give my money to better people.  Instead of spending all this energy toward damage control, your time would probably be better spent designing a line for the paragons of fashion NOM staffers that share your philosophy.

NOM Founder Maggie Gallagher dressed like this on national television.  Maybe she'll buy D&G

NOM Founder Maggie Gallagher dressed like this on national television. Maybe she’ll buy D&G

Happy Chinese New Year!

Today is Chinese New Year!  It is the Year of the Sheep.  JJ and AJ were born in the Year of the Pig, and DJ and MJ were born in the Year of the Snake.  The kids dressed in outfits to celebrate their Chinese heritage and I took some photos.  I am particularly proud of the one with all four kids smiling.  That is no easy feat these days!

Perfect Head to Toe

Since DJ and MJ were born, we have noted that they have some relatively minor anatomical quirks. These issues can significantly affect their functioning growing up if not dealt with early.

Possibly due to crowding in utero, DJ’s ankles were turned inward. Soon after they came home from India we took DJ to a pediatric orthopedist who put her left leg in a cast for several weeks and then followed up with a brace that she wears several hours daily. Without these interventions DJ would have had issues walking normally. I believe the weight of the brace has actually increased her lower body strength and helped her walk earlier and even better than her twin brother!

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MJ’s issue was less noticeable early on, but as he got closer to his first birthday we noticed his left eye was turned inward. We took him to a pediatric ophthalmologist and he recommended putting an eyepatch on the better eye for a couple hours each day until the eye position could be surgically corrected. MJ had his surgery on Monday and we are overjoyed with the results. MJ is finally seeing the world in 3D and the look of wonderment on his face, seeing him make direct eye contact with us is so beautiful.

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During this season of giving thanks, I have been sensitive to the fact that there are no guarantees in life. No matter how you go about becoming a parent, nobody will ever promise you perfect babies. But once you have them, you love them unconditionally. I feel so blessed that these relatively minor issues can be corrected through modern medicine and that all my children continue to thrive.

Getting the Word Out

Gays With Kids Article

Last week, we had the opportunity to share some of our experiences for an article about long term gay couples that have children after many years together.  Part of the reason we put ourselves out here on the internet is because we hope that our story serves to inspire other LGBT couples and show them that having kids is a real possibility.  I just updated the links section with several other sites that provide other family resources for our community.

Coming soon, we are working with a published author to contribute our story to a collection about same sex couples and the journeys they take to parenthood.  Stay tuned…

Happy Halloween 2014

The babies have continued to develop and are both walking and running all over the house.  Whereas previously with the older boys it was easier to baby proof our home, it is significantly more challenging this time to keep the boys’ small toys out of the mouths of these babies.  However, similar to our experience when the boys became mobile, we are now feeling a bit cramped in this house we have been living in for five years.  We spent the remainder of the summer shopping for homes and found a beautiful somewhat larger house sitting on more than an acre of land in a nearby neighborhood so the boys can continue attending the same school.  We closed quickly and have spent the last several weeks painting and cleaning in preparation for a move in about a week.

As we approach Halloween and attend various community events, I have worked out a deal with the older boys that if they cooperate with a costume theme along with the babies at family oriented events, they are free to wear scarier costumes at other times and on Halloween night to go trick or treating.

Somewhere, over the rainbow...

Somewhere, over the rainbow…

AJ and JJ in their scary costumes

AJ and JJ in their scary costumes